My Reflections on Motherhood
“The most important thing she’d learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” — Jill Churchill
The most important part of who I am today is who I am as a mother and a wife. So far, my most fulfilling and challenging job in my life has been raising our three boys. I have been doing this for seven and a half years. There have been many days I wished there was a workplace for me to go to and many more days that I am thankful for the wonderful husband I have who brings home the bacon so I can stay home full-time with our children!
One of my main goals is to help our boys to grow up to be loving, kind, gentle, considerate, compassionate, respectful, Christian, healthy, hardworking, confident and intelligent men. Just like their Papa and their uncles!
My many ongoing tasks that take a lot of my energy: we cook, eat, play, read, and work around the house/garden/farm. I try to keep them safe and happy; while teaching them to be responsible, to make good choices, and to think before they speak and/or act. Oh yes, how could I forget I do teach them manners! If you have been around us you may not believe this. Why do manners seem difficult for boys to learn? Some days the constant talk of poop, toots, and burps make me want to pull out my hair.
When there are three boys in one house with different interests and attention spans it is difficult to keep up with all the activities, so things get a little trashed around here at times. And it feels as though I am not getting anything accomplished. My escape is to take them outside to ski or go to the beach or work in the garden.
Although mothering is an incredible job that I take seriously and in order for me to be the best mother I also have to remember who I am as a person, click here to see my post titled “I am…”
I have an ongoing conversation with one of my dear friends about how to be the best mom that we can be. We have come to the conclusion that we are who we are because: our own mother, our role models, experiences as a child, the books we have read, our friends who are also mothers and last but not least the lessons we have learned from our own mothering.
We have to accept that we are doing our best. We have to trust that our children will take what we have taught them and make the right choices. They may not always make the right choices and that is okay, too, because they will learn from their mistakes. Part of being a good mom is allowing our children to make mistakes and not expect them to be perfect! In return I hope that our children will grow up to be the best adults and parents they can be.
When I was in college my Dad told me once that one of my purposes in life was to do a better job in this world than my parents. I have taken this very seriously in all areas of my life. I also had very big shoes to fill.
I have an amazing mother who raised six children, five of whom are loving, kind, gentle, considerate, compassionate, respectful, hardworking, intelligent, and successful in all areas of their life.
I have the best step-mother in the world. She loves my Dad and has always shown love, support, kindness and understanding to the three of us kids, even when we didn’t return that love.
I have an incredible mother-in-law besides the fact that she is the reason my husband is on this earth, she raised him to be a wonderful man and a great father to our boys. She has helped me understand many things about marriage, communication, forgiveness, patience and peaceful parenting.
Mothering is a difficult job, whether you are a stay-at-home mom or a mom who works outside of your home part-time or full-time. We do the best we can with the resources we have. I believe it is important to have a circle of moms who love, support and respect us for the mothering we do!
Thank you to all the moms in my life!
I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day!
Added on October 25, 2012 when I found this quote:
“God intended motherhood to be a relay race. Each generation would pass the baton on to the next.” ~Mary Pride
Added September 4, 2013 when I found this awesome blog post, titled, “Moms, When are you going to learn? I’m not super mom. ” Definitely worth reading!